Here's the post on MIM's site, the one that spawned all of the Other Posts. Oh, and here's MIM's Follow Up.
Here's something else I think you will enjoy. So, er, Enjoy!
I was slightly inebriated last night when I wrote that last entry, and I hadn't meant any anger to be directed at any one person. I am still angry, but I was never mad at L., because the only reaction I had to her story was sadness.
I am angry with the very idea of checking in with your husband before you change yourself. I am married, but first and foremost I am myself. There is nothing he will ever do to express his personality that could make me love him any less. I expect the same from him, and this is why I married him.
Because Bruce and I have a loving, friendly relationship, I will sometimes ask his opinion on the ideas I have for my hair. (This is an example, bear with me.) I will not tolerate him telling me that it's not fair for me to want to get a haircut, because he signed up for me with long hair. That's absurd and medieval. I didn't want him to cut his hair off last summer, but when he said he really wanted to I did it for him.
God, if he stayed exactly as he was when we got married for our whole lives, I would divorce him. I mean, how boring is that? He "advertised" himself as a dynamic, ever-changing personality, and it's just "unfair" of him to stay exactly as he was.